Hey Reader,
Over the past few weeks, I’ve had the same conversation with introverts in totally different contexts: a business owner, a jobseeker and an aspiring content creator.
Different goals. Same invisible wall:
“I feel like I’m begging for attention.”
“I have to be online. But I don't like it.”
"I worry what people will think of me.”
"I have a picture in my head of how to be. But it's not my way."
Each of them knows that visibility matters for their work - not least because everyone and their mother is talking about the importance of building a personal brand online. How it's the new CV and everyone needs one.
But every time they try to post something online, their body reacts like they’re under attack.
Not lazy. Not uncommitted. Just scared in a way that doesn’t make logical sense.
For them - and many introverts - putting yourself online doesn't just feel uncomfortable. It triggers your nervous system's threat response.
And it's almost impossible to be consistent when you're feeling unsafe.
Unbound Shift: you don’t need more confidence; you need more safety.
As introverts, we’ve often learned to blend in. To observe, edit, stay in control - or hide who we are.
Being visible disrupts all of that.
So when you go to post, your brain starts screaming:
“What if this goes badly? What if people think I’m weird? What if no one responds?”
That fear lives in your body. And no strategy overrides a dysregulated nervous system.
But here’s the good news: you can train for safety.
Every time you post and nothing bad happens, your body learns. You don’t need to love visibility. You just need to build capacity for it.
Like anything else, the more often you do something the easier it gets.
Unbound Step: build a rhythm your nervous system can trust
Try this for 4 weeks:
- Pick two posting days - mark them as non-negotiable (like meetings).
- Batch/ schedule your posts - pick a day when your energy’s higher and no one’s watching.
- Post + walk away - no refreshing. Check responses 2 hours later, max.
- No analysis. Just repeat. Consistency, not confidence, is what rewires the fear.
You’re not trying to go viral. You’re trying to feel safe enough to keep showing up.
Because once your body learns that visibility ≠ danger, it stops screaming. And you get your voice back.
So...what’s the post you’ve been holding back on?
Write it. Then schedule it. Let that be enough.
As someone who's trying to build a lil' one person online freedom business, my own struggle has been very much in terms of staying consistent. I've focused on Threads and LinkedIn, as I'm more comfortable with the written word than being on camera, but I have still been VERY inconsistent with my posting as well as my messaging.
Sometimes this is due to life - like being unwell or busy - and sometimes it's not knowing what to say.
Since April, I've deliberately been challenging myself to post each day and, the more I posted, the more natural it's felt AND the clearer I've gotten in what to post.
The real game-changer for me, though, was using Black Twist App to schedule my Threads posts; it took me around an hour to schedule a whole month's worth of content and knowing I'll be showing up online no matter what has brought me considerable peace of mind, as well as giving me the freedom to spend my time on the platform engaging or posting more spontaneously.
If this sounds like your jam, you can check out Black Twist App here (this is an affiliate link so if you signed up I'd earn a small commission at no extra cost to you).
And if you want to chat through anything I've covered in this email, hit reply - I read every single one.
In your corner always,
Sam 💛
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Sam Sheppard
Introvert Life Design Strategist
I share practical tools to help you design a life that actually fits.
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