You're too sensitive


It's information, not weakness.

Hey Reader,

“You’re too sensitive.”

Throughout my life, I've been called this many times, by many different people.

I always perceived this as a criticism.

And sometimes it was.

Other times they just meant that I notice things other people don't.

Regardless, I thought my sensitivity was a flaw.

I noticed:

  • When the music was too loud (everyone else seemed fine)
  • When the office got chaotic (everyone else kept working)
  • When I needed time alone after meetings (everyone else went to lunch together)

I spent so much energy trying to:

  • Not need recovery time
  • Not be bothered by noise
  • Not look 'difficult' for having needs

It was exhausting.

Then I learned something that changed everything.

Neuroscience shows introverts’ nervous systems respond more strongly to stimuli than extroverts’. We notice what others filter out automatically - subtle shifts in tone, lighting, background noise, even the energy in a room.

That sensitivity isn’t weakness. It’s information.

My brain isn’t 'too sensitive'; it’s wired differently.
And once I learned to read that wiring, I stopped fighting myself.

Before: I ignored what I noticed. I pushed through.

After: I designed my environment around my wiring. I protected my nervous system. I stopped apologising for my needs.

I didn’t fix who I was.
I redefined what it meant to be me.


Unbound Shift

You’re not too sensitive, too quiet, too slow or too much.

You’re just running different software.

The exhaustion you feel? It comes from forcing extrovert programmes onto introvert hardware.

When you understand your nervous system is tuned differently, you can stop working against yourself - and start reading the system beneath your reactions.

This is the first step toward discovering your Introvert OS™ so that you can begin protecting your energy, asking for what you need and thriving without guilt.


Unbound Shift

Try this:

This week, notice when you tell yourself you’re “too [something]”.

Then ask:

What if this isn’t a flaw? What if it’s information about how I’m wired?

Reframe:

  • “I’m too sensitive” → “I notice things others miss.”
  • “I’m too quiet” → “I process internally before speaking.”
  • “I’m too slow” → “I think thoroughly before responding.”

Not fixing. Reframing. That’s the first step toward understanding your wiring and designing a life that fits you.

In your corner always,
Sam 💛

P.S. What’s one thing you’ve been told you’re 'too much' of? Hit reply and tell me. I read every response - and your words often shape future editions.

Sam Sheppard

Introvert OS™

I share practical tools to help you design a life that actually fits.

P.P.S. When you're ready here are the ways I can help you:


1. GET CLEAR:
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